I wish you knew the impact that one good friend can make when nothing is right at home. I was at a really bad place in my life, my dad was in jail for the nth time and I had just started high school. My life was in ruins – nothing seemed to fall in place. I stopped going to class, I started rebelling, and I became obsessed with guys (not actually, I just wanted to fit in). I was acting out because I was in pain, the world didn’t make sense.
I had a friend, who showed unwavering confidence in my abilities. She knew of my situation at home and she kept telling me that she knew I could I be an honour student. It was the most ridiculous idea I had ever heard especially because I had almost failed every class I took the previous year. She asked me to try, for her. I did try, because I wasn’t used to someone encouraging me instead of tearing me down for my shortcomings. I didn’t make honour roll that term but I brought my average up by 20% and it only continued to rise as I stayed in her company. Don’t underestimate the positive influence you can have in someone’s life just by supporting, encouraging and building them up.
*The names of people have been changed to protect their identity. I conducted an in person interview with “Preet” and helped her put her thoughts together. She hopes that this message will help someone realize the positive impact they can have on someone facing difficult circumstances.
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November 2, 2015 at 7:30 PM
I really appreciated this piece! There are a lot of girls, high born and under privileged alike, that suffer domestic or sexual abuse at some point. With out help or access to an unwavering support system we tend to mild ourselves into accepting the lifestyle of a victim instead off fighting to be survivors. If you are ever in need of a guest writer/editor I would love to contribute.
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November 2, 2015 at 9:27 PM
Thank you so much for your kind words! I hope to read more from you in the future!
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November 2, 2015 at 8:57 PM
I used to work as a police analyst and did a lot of work on domestic abuse & DV. One of the surprising things I discovered was that girls aged 13 were amongst the most victimised (somewhat worrying as my eldest daughter was that age when I did the work). The term ‘domestic violence ‘ conjures up images of adult relationships to most people & there needs to be better understanding of abuse by boyfriends & other peer acquaintances. As you point out, friends are crucial in guiding the victims out of these lifestyles.
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November 2, 2015 at 9:10 PM
That’s an excellent point! Many individuals assume that dv is an adult issue but children are not only impacted by it but also victims. Half of all women in Canada have experienced at least one incident of physical or sexual violence since the age of 16. That’s a disturbing statistic that is often overlooked. We need to address this issue on all fronts and with all ages. Thank you so much for your comment! I hope to read more from you in the future. Please keep contributing as your points are not only valuable but thought provoking.
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November 3, 2015 at 9:27 PM
People often do not realize how even the smallest act of kindness can have a profound impact on someone in need. Thank you Preet for sharing your story and reminding me and everyone else about the positive role we can play in others’ lives. Sometimes during the chaos we forgot just how strong and capable we are, and that gentle reminder from someone is just the push needed to get us going again. I am happy that you had such an amazing friend and support in your life during that rough time and hope that you continue to thrive in life!
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December 21, 2015 at 7:28 AM
“The ache for home lives in all of us. The safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned.”
by Maya Angelou
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